pjvj (pjvj) wrote,

Ani DiFranco's non apology showing even more privilege

 I've been tracking and discussing DiFranco's debacle on Facebook as per my previous post and the night before last I found myself so very fatigued and I thought, "I need to walk away from this. I'm exhausted." And I meant completely walk away, not just go to sleep. As soon as the thought crossed my mind I knew it for the privileged thought that it was because that's what privilege does - it allows us to walk away and not have to think about an uncomfortable thing. Because our life is separate from the uncomfortable things if we allow it to be. The oppressed, however, do not get to walk away, because it is their life. And that is a universal thread running across privileged groups - that the privileged can choose to walk away and not be affected by it. If every person internalized that, felt the truth of it, we'd go a long way to understanding the effects of privilege and finding solutions for mitigating it.

And near everyone in this country has a place where they are not the privileged class, so they can actually put themselves in the scenario of not being able to walk away from the oppression instead of only trying to imagine it. Is it exactly the same for a white, male, cis-gendered, heterosexual, able-bodied, non-Christian person as a black, female, cis-gendered, heterosexual, able-bodied non-Christian? Of course not. But that doesn't mean the white guy can't find a place where he "gets it". Feel free to sub in and out however you want with my example, my point is DiFranco could have gotten it, had she wanted to.

Ani DiFranco gets to walk away from the mess she created. She had the choice to walk with grace and humility. She chose instead to be condescending and dismissive. She made it all about her and why her choice of venue was correct. I described her pseudo-apology as: "Here is why my choice of venue was really a good choice, but since you all are mad I'm going to cancel the event (even though it is still a good choice). I'm going to be the bigger person (than all of you) and call for nice words be spoken instead of mean ones because I get to live in my privilege of getting to choose how I am heard."

But it is so much more than my description. And here Chesya Burke lays it out for you, point by point.

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