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I'm thinking maybe I'm annoying. I'm thinking eagerness sometimes sucks. I'm thinking I saw someone ask a question on another format that made me think "Shit. Is that how it looks to others when *I* ask questions?" I mean, when I ask and get no answer at all I know it means I don't get the answer. The reason doesn't matter. I was always the one saying "It never hurts to ask, the worst that can happen is that you're told, 'No'." But I saw this someone ask a second time after not receiving the info they wished. I think that is pretty nervy. I don't recall having ever done that, but it made me think maybe fewer questions would be better. Now, it wasn't me who was asked the question so it could just be my twisted perception. I often seem to see the world and the people in it in a different light than most folks, or more accurately maybe, in a different light than most folks will admit to.

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firefly124
Mar. 11th, 2005 04:13 am (UTC)
::blinks::

No, you were right the first time. It never hurts to ask, and the worst that happens is someone says "no."

I can see re-posting a question depending on the format. For example, you might think your question got lost in a barrage of posts and maybe nobody actually saw it. Or perhaps thinking the question hadn't been worded clearly the first time. Though there are also the nervy ones, for sure.
pjvj
Mar. 11th, 2005 04:57 am (UTC)
Frankly I don't see me being capable of not asking questions anymore short of succumbing to death. :-)

Maybe I'm a little nutty or a little arrogant or both, but I believe I can accurately peg people and their motives quite accurately on the internet. Not to say I've never been wrong, but it's rare. (Ah, see, sounds like arrogance - lol.)

This situation I believe was the nervy one because the answer was "no" (though worded in a kind way)and the question came again. My feeling was the answer was wanted more for ... how to say this without being rude ... for gossipy purposes and it got me to thinking. Of course any reason, gossipy or otherwise, is as good as any other when you're curious I suppose. And if I believe no harm in asking then I guess the same can be said for no harm in asking twice.

I am type-hit-post lather, rinse, repeat kind of person. I think I will pause more and be more precise in my questions in the future. Less of the 3 year old eagerness, "Mommy, why is the sky blue? Mommy, why is that bird just sitting on the branch instead of flying? Mommy, how did that walnut get in the shell?" ROFL! Well, maybe not quite that bad.

I often ask questions knowing the answer, or believing I know the answer, but check for accuracy and some of those I can drop unless I have a serious doubt to my interpretation. Trusting my instincts more would not be a bad thing.

You are right about posting something in a flurry of posts and it possibly being missed. In that case I may repeat a question, but it is really the nature of the question that determines that.
blackthornglade
Mar. 11th, 2005 05:24 pm (UTC)
I suspect I know who you're refering to, and you really shouldn't compare yourself to her. She's grated on so many people for enough years that we mostly ignore her, now. She rarely gets questions answered...you'll notice that she jumps into convos and people sort of swirl around her.

I don't think you should stop asking questions...and asking for clarification on somethnig counts as a new question, not the same one. *grins* Sometimes it takes asking two or three variations of a question before it actually settles into your brainpan...and sometimes it takes an answer from a particular person speaking in a particular way to strike home.

Questing for answers is tricky...but I've never noticed you being overly nervy or pushy or whatever.
pjvj
Mar. 12th, 2005 04:01 am (UTC)
I wasn't really comparing myself to her (her questions are often attack-mode rather than seeking information mode just not in this case), but I suddenly thought ... ewwwww ... do I come off that pusht? Especially since I often 'pester' the person who being asked the "gossipy" question. Her and you are the two I question the most. lol

But thanks for your post. I appreciate it. :-) And I like the phrase "settle into your brainpan" - how accurate and what a visual!
blackthornglade
Mar. 14th, 2005 10:03 pm (UTC)
*grins* I'm all about the visual. :)

If you're able to question whether you're being too pushy, you're probably not. Besides...we're able to smack your nose with a paper and say "too much!" :)

pjvj
Mar. 14th, 2005 10:56 pm (UTC)
Hey!

You *r* a meanie - just like they said! :P~
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